When “Trying” Became “Being”
- Stephen Mbouwa
- 23 Feb, 2026
- 01 Min read
- Identity
For a long time, I used to say:
“I’m trying to get in shape”
It sounded responsible
Disciplined
Intentional
But trying is temporary
Trying depends on mood
On energy
On circumstances
When I was “trying,” my movement followed motivation
Some weeks were strong
Some weeks disappeared
Nothing was stable
Then something small shifted
Not my workouts
Not my schedule
My language
I stopped saying I was trying
I started saying:
“I train”
It felt strange at first
Almost premature
But something internal changed
Movement stopped feeling like effort
It started feeling like alignment
The Quiet Shift
Years later, the shift went deeper
I stopped identifying with outcomes
Not “getting in shape”
Not “improving performance”
Just this:
Movement is part of my baseline
At this point, if I go more than a week without moving, I genuinely feel it — almost like withdrawal
Half joke
Half true
Movement stopped being a task
It became normal
Identity Before Intensity
Most people approach fitness as a goal
Goals require effort
Identity creates consistency
When someone says:
“I’m trying to run”
That’s a temporary objective
When someone says:
“I’m a runner”
That’s a filter
Decisions pass through identity
Runners run
Lifters lift
Dancers rehearse
Athletes train
People who move… move
Intensity becomes secondary
Consistency becomes automatic
This Week’s Shift
Don’t change your routine
Change your sentence
Before you move, say:
“I don’t try. I train.”
Even if it feels slightly ahead of your current level
Identity precedes proof
Not the other way around
Last week, we talked about belonging
Belonging stabilizes behavior externally
Identity stabilizes it internally
Both matter
Both are being intentionally designed into Altiora
For deeper reflections like this, explore The Altiora Journal
This isn’t about hype
It’s about building something durable
For now — don’t try
Train