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When “Trying” Became “Being”

When “Trying” Became “Being”

  • Stephen Mbouwa
  • 23 Feb, 2026
  • 01 Min read
  • Identity

For a long time, I used to say:

“I’m trying to get in shape”

It sounded responsible
Disciplined
Intentional

But trying is temporary

Trying depends on mood
On energy
On circumstances

When I was “trying,” my movement followed motivation

Some weeks were strong
Some weeks disappeared

Nothing was stable

Then something small shifted

Not my workouts
Not my schedule

My language

I stopped saying I was trying

I started saying:

“I train”

It felt strange at first
Almost premature

But something internal changed

Movement stopped feeling like effort
It started feeling like alignment


The Quiet Shift

Years later, the shift went deeper

I stopped identifying with outcomes

Not “getting in shape”
Not “improving performance”

Just this:

Movement is part of my baseline

At this point, if I go more than a week without moving, I genuinely feel it — almost like withdrawal

Half joke
Half true

Movement stopped being a task

It became normal


Identity Before Intensity

Most people approach fitness as a goal

Goals require effort

Identity creates consistency

When someone says:

“I’m trying to run”

That’s a temporary objective

When someone says:

“I’m a runner”

That’s a filter

Decisions pass through identity

Runners run
Lifters lift
Dancers rehearse
Athletes train
People who move… move

Intensity becomes secondary

Consistency becomes automatic


This Week’s Shift

Don’t change your routine

Change your sentence

Before you move, say:

“I don’t try. I train.”

Even if it feels slightly ahead of your current level

Identity precedes proof

Not the other way around


Last week, we talked about belonging

Belonging stabilizes behavior externally

Identity stabilizes it internally

Both matter

Both are being intentionally designed into Altiora

For deeper reflections like this, explore The Altiora Journal

This isn’t about hype

It’s about building something durable

For now — don’t try

Train